SEX WITH THE NANNY.....

Hello good folks........i hope you are well this black Friday. I most certainly am.

About a week ago there was a story on the pullout section of the standard paper, crazy Monday. Crazy Monday is a pullout paper in the Monday issue of the standard paper. On it there was a story about young boys losing their virginity to the nannies. That story is actually true. Its happening here in Kenya and if you didn't know, now you know.

Sex with the nanny is not a story any boy will easily admit. Those who grew up with house helps almost certainly have a story similar to this. Their first sexual experience was with the house help. Most parents, especially those working parents, tend to trust the nannies with their children. They go to work in full knowledge that their kids are in safe hands.

This however is not always the case. Some of these nannies take it upon themselves to give these innocent kids their first sexual experience. I say innocent because that is what these boys are. However there are those that actually ask for it. Even though rare, its common practice.

Immediately i read that story i thought of a similar case. I know of a boy in my neighborhood where i grew up with a similar story. The boy is about 4 years old. Of course at this age the boy might be excused for not knowing much concerning the sexual act.

For the sake of this post i will name the boy Alex. Alex is a normal boy. He has never told me if he has had sex with nanny before. I, just like most of us in the neighborhood think that he is in that situation. Before you think i am on his case, allow me to tell you why i think he is having sex with the nanny. His behavior is not normal for his age. He, first of all does not tolerate boys at all. He prefers my sisters to me. He cries every time a  man touches him.

When he is carried by the ladies he often touches their boobies. How else would he know boobies apart from  lessons with the nanny. Alex also seems to perform the 'act' when he is carried by the ladies. He performs actions similar to those of the sexual act. I have no doubt that Alex learnt his trade from the lady who is charged with taking care of him.

Of course Alex's case is just one of the many cases out there. Boys don't like to admit it but it happens to them. It happened to me too. I think i was about 7 years then. Normally at that age i should have known of the 'deed'. It so happened that after school i would come back home, eat, shower then head to the bedroom for a nap.

Its at this time that i always had 'company' on my bed. Mine however was dry humping as far as i can remember. We had our cloths on. I would stay on top of her and 'do the deed'. Of course at that time i enjoyed it. I thought it was fun. This went on for a while until she was relieved of her duties.

Alex and i are just a fraction of those boys who had a similar experience. I cant help but think of how dangerous such a situation is. What if the nanny is HIV+? What if we had unprotected sex and i got the disease? At that young age boys cannot make informed choices. I hope many parents read that article. They need to be aware of the dangers they expose there kids to when they leave them with the nanny.

Good day folks.

WHEN QUITING IS NOT AN OPTION...

Howdy people, i hope your Monday has started off in a great way. Mine has. I always trust God to make my days productive and wonderful.

Days like these its hard being an Arsenal fan. Its at these times that one might ask why Arsenal supporters wont change teams. If anything its as easy as the easiest thing to do. But i can tell you those are not real fans. Changing teams is near impossible if not impossible. It is one of the hardest things to do.

The joy, the pain and the frustration one gets from supporting Arsenal is irreplaceable. Its just total bliss. The emotions it draws out of you is just priceless. It makes you alive. The adrenaline that rushes through you when you lose or win a game of football compares to nothing. Trust me nothing comes close. When your team wins a big match you are on cloud nine, When you lose, you swallow the bitter pill and hope your team beats the next opponent. Only with arsenal, you might have to wait a bit longer. They offer frustrations in double portions.

Take the issue of Arsene Wenger for example. Whenever my team lose i always look forward to his post match comments. Hoping that for once he will concede defeat. To admit that things are not working and a change is needed. Sadly the man never admits. Denial all the time. This weekend we lost to united. Thoroughly beaten. You would expect, for a man who knows football to admit his shortcomings, but alas, he talks of illusionary domination. He claimed Arsenal dominated Man u, only that we did not do anything with all that possession.

Arsene is a man with vast experience. However i believe that to much experience in one particular area is a disadvantage. It leads to stagnation, overconfidence, short-sightedness and inability to improve or accept correction. Staying dormant is a crime if you ask me. People should seek to grow. Today i am a student writing this blog, if after two years am still writing this blog as student that would be stagnation. I should be working by then.

However with all these frustrations, a true supporter cannot change clubs, not even dare think about it. By now am sure you understand what it means to be loyal. If this is not loyalty then i don't know what is. However this particular example of loyalty seem to be one sided. Its one way. The fan is loyal to the club but i doubt if the club gives a damn.

Tomorrow America votes. I support Obama but since i have no vote, i have no say. I just hope the Americans share my view. Barrack back to office and Mitt to a vacation wherever he chooses. That would be the ideal solution. May the best man win. My gut feeling hasn't kicked in  yet so i don't know who will win.

'The labourers appetite works for him, the hunger drives him on.'

A new week, new challenges. Drive on and work hard.
Good day folks.

LOYALTY

Loyalty is defined by the Wikipedia as the devotion or faithfulness to a person or  a cause. This is my say on it. I will also give you a link to Michael Owens blog so you can read what he had to say. Hello ghost reader, i hope you are good.

Loyalty works hand in hand with trust and commitment. If you commit to a certain cause or trust somebody then you certainly are loyal. Loyalty is very important to all of us. We all need people that are loyal to us. We tend to feel more secure that way. Everyone of us would be happy if there was an indicator that showed the level of loyalty those we surround ourselves with have toward us.

There are many things that dictate loyalty. I believe some of these include kindness and generosity and of cause honesty. Has someone ever showed you an act of kindness? How did you feel toward them in return? I am always attracted to those who are kind to me. Its normal. I in turn show a certain level of loyalty toward them. its the same with generosity. Generosity and kindness have a soft place in the heart.

Don't you just love it  when you can say with absolute certainty that so and so would never lie to you? Trust is hard to achieve, however its not impossible. The quickest way to earn trust is through honesty. Its only through trust that things like confidence and security emerge. Mostly we tend to trust our parents because they would rarely lie to us. Once honesty and trust are in place, loyalty builds. We automatically become loyal in the process.

I have a cat in my house. The situation surrounding me being the owner of the cat is questionable. This is because the cat is not legally mine. I don't know the true the owner. It just so happened that this cat loved coming to my house every time i got back from school. My fondness to it grew over time. I fed the cat whenever i could and even let it stay in my house. This cat had now become a part of my household.

The kindness i showed the cat must have drawn its loyalty. We became tight. Even to the point of it spending the night in my house. At first i objected to such a move. This is because the cat was dirty. It looks like a wild cat. It used to spend the night out in the cold. In the garbage. I feared it would somehow infect me. But all these objections i had were out weighed by the fact that the cat had shown loyalty to me. It had become my cat.

I could feel a sense of relief fill the cat. For the first time in many nights it was peaceful. No more sleeping with one eye open, always on the look out for that dog waiting to disturb its peace. This gave me joy. I no longer feared contracting diseases from the cat. After all i could seek medical treatment should it happen. I am sure you noticed i use past tense in referring to my relationship with the cat. Sadly for me the cat might be dead. By the time it was seeking solace in my house it was already wounded. Another cat might have hurt my cat. One day i got home and it was missing. I haven't seen it since then. I hope its fine wherever it is. Do you now see how true kindness and generosity breeds loyalty?

You could use the story of Ruth and Naomi in the bible.  The kindness that Naomi showed to Ruth resulted in loyalty. Ruth became loyal to Naomi and even left their gods and her family to follow Naomi and the God of Naomi.  Such a good story, read it when you can.

Lastly am sure you are aware that this weekend Arsenal will meet a former player. RVP. Many gunners have had their say regarding his loyalty. Everyone has an opinion on that. Read what Michael Owen had to say on that here. www.michaelowen.com/blog.htm

'The blessings from the Lord to a man will make him wealthy, and does not bring trouble with it.'

good day and good luck.